I’m not gifted in the art of saying “no”. I very rarely have the brains to say no. If I’m honest with myself it boils down to the fact that I carry around this monster in my heart called Pride and I don’t want anyone to think I’m not capable of doing something.
I feel that if I say no that someone will use excuses like I’m too young or too inexperienced or too immature or I don’t have the skills or (my favorite) that I can’t do it because I’m a girl (no one gets to pull the girl card on me except for me, dang it!) Or the even better ones, I’m selfish or mean or I’m stuck up and therefore I WON’T help anyone out but myself. So I say yes, yes, YES! and then my list of To Do’s is out the window and I have days like yesterday when I went to the bathroom and had myself a good little cry because I felt so entirely suffocatingly overwhelmed.
Needless to say, I’ve decided I need to work on saying “no”. And maybe deal with my pride as well, i don’t know. And possibly my people pleasing addiction. And my inability to convey my frustrations without crying. And my addiction to Dr. Pepper. Oh wait no, scratch that one, I’m ok with that one.
vintage romper (another find from Lori!)// Zara heels//Target Sunnies
Today’s Friday Fancy is a combo of my favorite summer look: rompers and hats! Rompers are so easy and cute, and a hat can make any outfit suddenly look different and unique. Here are a few of my favorite rompers paired with a cute hat!
I don’t have anything scheduled for today so I’m just going to let out a few thoughts that I’ve been having lately, alright? alright.
This week has been a little bit of a ick one. Back in August I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis (yes at 24. so ridiculous) and a few days ago I had what I like to call “a spell”. I don’t have very many spells (we’ll get to that reason in a bit) but when I do they suck the life right out of me and make me feel like the most pathetic person on the planet. Occasionally the spell is in my hands or my knees but this time it was deep in my hips and lower back and lasted for days.
The pain is an ache that steals your sleep and your peace of mind and you start to wonder if it’ll always feel like this. Until one day you wake up and the pain is gone, you can move freely. And you start to think how silly and pathetic you were acting. Until it happens again.
When a doctor tells you that at 24 you have arthritis, it’s pretty unbelievable. When he tells you that the medicine he’s about to put you on can cause major emotional malfunctions and infertility, it’s infuriating. I’m still not entirely convinced that I have RA, due to the fact that since August I’ve had less than 10 spells and none of them have been as bad as that very first spell that sent me to the doctor with hands so swollen I couldn’t get a ring off my finger. But not even that first spell, when I felt like I had to bend almost completely in half just to be able to walk up the stairs, is worth the side effects from that medication. Medicine should not have that many negative side effects, it contradicts the definition of medicine.
So I’m not taking any. I’m researching natural methods, like eating more fish which is high in omega-3 fatty acids (which sounds disgusting but apparently it’s good for fighting RA) and doing more yoga. I’m experimenting, finding what works for me so that I don’t have to feel that helpless, depressing pain ever again. So that I don’t have to be scared of what is going to happen to my mind in order to “take care” of my body. And most importantly, so that I won’t have doctors telling me that I need to stop wearing cute shoes and start wearing Dr. Scholls. Just kidding. kind of.
This past week I had a spell. I had dropped the ball on my yoga, stopped being as conscious of the food I ate, and apparently it back fired on me. It was a painful wake up call, but it did it’s job. Instead of forcing me to run screaming to a doctor who would give me ovary destroying medication, it caused me to remember why exactly I was working towards becoming healthier in my eating habits and my lifestyle.
I was given a painful diagnosis(granted, it could have been much worse, I know) and a stupid remedy to that diagnosis. But I’m not accepting either one. Words are powerful, but only if you allow them to be. If you allow negative words to fester in your heart, to take root and burrow into your soul, then you will accept anything anyone says about you, not just silly diagnosis’, but what people say about your character, about your abilities, about your worth.
But the same works for positive words as well. If you refuse to accept what people say about you, if your worth comes from something more than just the words of those around you, then you know that you are capable of anything.
target hat//U2 tee borrowed from my brother//DIY cut offs//Threadsence smoking slippers
I know that doctors are put in place for a reason, i know that they save lives and do wondrous things. Maybe this doctor is right, maybe I do have RA. But if I can live the rest of my life in a healthier way and NOT have to take stupid ridiculous drugs? I do believe that’s a win/win for everyone.
WHEW you weren’t expecting THIS today were you?! They don’t call me The Rambler for nothin ;)
Went to the very first Oklahoma Fashion Week! yay! so fun// my dress for OFW! // one of my favorite shots from this post, he’s such a cutie// I’ve had this song on repeat constantly, so good!// JoJo Bear got hims a haircut// the 7th & West trunk show!// sweet baby sister// I found 8 of these darling pink glass goblets! She claimed they were depression glass but I’m skeptical. Either way, their pink! eek!// a great new app! 365 Daily Inspiration, get a verse a day for a whole year! Here’s the free NIV version (with ads!) or here’s the MSG version!
Today I am sharing with you a fun new linkup partay! YAY!
What She Wears is a great way to share how YOU wear your style. A different theme will be announced each month and the linkup will go live the first tuesday of every month. AAAANNNNDD here’s the fun part: we will each show our favorite linked up look on our blogs! So fun right?
This month’s theme is Date Night! Here’s my take:
I wanted to do something a little bit edgier and this cute little pinafore dress was just the thing! I love the black and white stripes and I felt dressy and girly but I was still comfy with my black leather chelsea boots. Jared did yell “beetlejuice beetlejuice beetlejuice!” when he saw me but I’m used to his teasing about my clothes so eh whatevs :) I know he secretly loves it.
old navy top (old)//primark neckalce//ASOS pinafore dress//forever 21 boots//7th & West ring//gifted bag
Now it is YOUR turn. Link up your favorite date night look below. The only rules are that you follow each of us (you can follow me BlogLovin’) and link back to one of us in your post. You can also put our handy dandy button on your sidebar, it sure is pretty, isn’t it?! In a week we will each pick our favorite looks and showcase them on our blogs. Fun, right? Don’t forget to add the #whatshewears when posting on Instagram and Twitter so we can all see your looks!
My sweet friend Lori bought a house a while back that just happened to come with absolutely everything the previous owner had possessed while living. An older woman who had passed away from age, the remaining family just took the things that they wanted and left everything else for Lori to figure out. Kind of weird and somewhat rude, but it happened to work out in our favor; Lori found a closet-full of vintage clothes in one of the rooms!
She’s just about the most fantastic person ever because she let me come over and pick out whatever I wanted! This little romper (yes it’s a romper!) was one of my finds. I’ve spoken before about my love for vintage and these latest pieces are no exception. I absolutely adore the fact that there is a story in these seams and while I will never know it myself, I can imagine it all I want.
I’d like to think that this darling little romper was for something special, because hi hello look how cute it is. I hope I do it justice!
Urban Outfitters sunnies// revlon colostay in top tomato// vintage dress//guess heels
I had the privilege of attending the Saturday evening finale show of Oklahoma Fashion Week this weekend. I’m utterly thrilled to see events like this happening and I’ve even more thrilled to see these events partnering with other companies to make a difference here in Oklahoma. A portion of proceeds from OFW benefited the the Regional Food Bank of Oklahoma to help fight child hunger.
look it’s me!
I had such a great time at OFW. Thanks again for inviting me girls! Can’t wait for next year. Below are some of my favorite looks of the evening, all from Oklahoma designers!
These are our top 4 Spring Must Haves! Check out mine below and then head over to SLC to read all about Courts!
::The Rambler’s Spring Must Haves::
1. Blush/Bronzer Duo:: When the weather gets warmer my makeup routine gets lazier and lazier. I just love a simple fresh look! This blush/bronzer is the perfect mix of shimmer and color. A little mascara, a little blush/bronzer, and a little bit of gloss and you’re good to go!
2. Muscle Tees:: Oh my word I am OBSESSED with this trend! Muscle tees are so laid back and comfy and right now there are so many options you can basically have any graphic you want. Romantic, rocker, hipster, whatever floats your boat.